The Paralysis of Waiting

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There are few things on this earth more dangerous than waiting.

Waiting for the perfect time to launch. Waiting to have enough money to start. Waiting for your friends to think you can. Waiting for some blogger or regional manager or magazine editor to notice. Waiting for God to increase the hours of the day. Waiting until the kids graduate. Waiting until you’re out of debt. Waiting for your dad to believe in you. Waiting for the boss to say it’s fine. Waiting for a case study to prove that it’s worth it. Waiting for retirement. Waiting to be chosen. Waiting to be validated. Waiting for a sign.

The obvious problem with waiting. Paralysis. The nothingness that comes with not trying.

The not-so-obvious problem with waiting. The more you do it, the better you get at it.

You want to know the truth? I’d rather slip backwards than stay put. Because at the very least I’m learning something for my next step up. And that something is usually more valuable than what I would have learned by doing nothing at all.
This is not a rant. I mean it. It’s overwhelming. Think of all the art that has yet to be created and all the web applications that have yet to be built and all the music that has yet to be written and all the dishes that have yet to be tasted and all stories that have yet to be told … because somebody, somewhere is waiting.

So, what are you waiting for?

Your Fellow Misfit,


Ps – Our Once in a Lifetime giveaway winner, Kara Knight, started a new blog to document her adventure. If you have a second, please stop by and say hello, I’m sure she would appreciate it.


Written from: a hill watching the sunrise over the Santa Ynez Valley


This is an excerpt from The Life & Times of a Remarkable Misfit, which has been downloaded over 100,000 times since it was first published a few months ago. Based on the response, I have launched a project to bring the book to print. If you enjoyed this essay, then I know you will LOVE the rewards I handcrafted for my generous backers. You can watch the video about the project here. Thank you in advance for your support. 


Two years ago, I canceled a book deal with a major publisher because I realized that I had sold out for an advance and the desire to be chosen. Today, I am deciding to choose myself instead. But I need your help.

Will you back a fellow Misfit?

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